"... though the heart is breaking,
happiness can exist in a moment, also.
And because the moment in which we live is all
the time there really is, we can keep going...
Perhaps our planet is for learning to appreciate
the extraordinary wonder of life that surrounds even
our suffering, and to say Yes, if through the thickest of tears."
- Alice Walker
We are wounded in relationship, and we heal in relationship.
How does experiential therapy help?
Experiential psychotherapy is helpful because real life is experiential, and because change is fueled by us actually doing and experiencing something new & different from our suffering.
The magic of experiential therapy is that we learn to really be with our whole selves, in real time in a new way. And we learn to trust ourselves as we sense what underlies whatever we are struggling with. When we learn to process our emotions through, we find suffering transforms into something life giving.
This sounds simple, and it is. Yet it isn’t easy. We’ve learned to shut ourselves down; we’ve experienced anxiety, or depression, or intellectualizing, or criticizing for so long that these are neurologically wired in tight - it takes some work to notice what we are doing and it takes courage and safety to dare to do something different.
“... it takes practice to slow down, unwind, and open. We have to work at loosening our attachment to our thoughts, relaxing our resistance to our feelings, and releasing the tension in our bodies.”
(Psaris & Lyons, Undefended Love)
Our work together builds your skills to be:
Mindfulness practice revolutionizes therapy and life because it lets us be with what is present and cultivate what we need: safety, acceptance, openness, compassion. Through our work, you will become more attuned to yourself and present in each moment. You will gain a greater understanding of how the mind works and how it can mire us in the past, in stress, depression & anxiety.
Emotional pain and trauma is held in the body. Talking is helpful, but how we've survived is by shutting down our body's natural responses, and how we heal is by opening back up again - slowly, and in a safe space. Noticing the tension, moving with an impulse, holding our trembling heart. Emotions are not "good" or "bad," they are transformational physical processes
that connect us with our innate capacity to heal.
Why is this happening? What does this mean? Who am I? Resonant answers come from deep inside, and from our experience of who we are beyond our problems. My practice is grounded in the visceral knowing that each of us is essentially good, worthy, courageous, loving and wise. When we are not experiencing this, it is because we have armored ourselves against it - for a reason that made sense when we did it, but does no longer.
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